Don't ask for help if you don't want it

Seriously, if you do not want help, do not ask for it! I have been amazed over the years how some couples get themsleves in such a planning mess because they have asked friends and family for help thinking that they are obligated to do so...

In all fairness, it is also wise to tell those who may "want" to help that your are so very thankful, however their help is not needed :)

When is a wedding a wedding?

Is a wedding a wedding:

when the dress is bought?

when the date is set?

when the venue is reserved?

when the guests arrive?

when the photos are done?

when the bride walks down the aisle?

Honestly, the wedding is not a wedding until the officiant shows up. Until that time it is an expensive party with a wedding theme. When we show up you've got yourself a wedding!

What I find fascinating is that the officiant is the least expensive vendor, yet we are by far the most important part of the day. You don't need a dress, a limo, flowers, a venue, a photographer, a videographer, a cake or for that matter any professional except an officiant.

My wisdom; choose very carefully the person who will pronounce you husband and wife. Do not just causally choose anyone and for goodness sake do not choose someone on price. Our fee is 375 and that is only 1.9% of the average budget for a wedding...

Surround yourself with the right people

Nothing can ruin your day like a sourpuss! Keep clear of all miserable people, better yet surrond yourself with the right people. The right people will support your goals, your dreams but can still confront you when you are loosig your mind. Do not pick fights with miserable people just walk away and move on!

Keep It Simple

Ok, so I have learned a lot after performing over 1000 wedding ceremonies. The #1 piece of wisdom I can pass on to every couple planning a wedding...Keep It Simple. Your wedding should be one of the greatest moments of your life yet so often I have seen the entire experience go south because of stress and frustration.